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What's a Girl to Do?

Hey Girls!

Hey Girls! Summer is a great time for fun and outdoor. We will be answering a different question on fashion, skin, and hair every week.

How can you be trendy and stylish at the beach or pool but still be modest?

This is a real trick these days, girls. Almost all the bathing suits are two piece that show a lot of skin. A girl doesn't want to look like the odd duck so, the trick is how to fit in and be modest. There are a lot of really cute bathing suit cover ups available this year. Choose a bright colored cover up and keep it close by when you are out of the water. Be sure to put it on while not swimming or walking around. Another option is to wear a "rash guard" or swim shirt at the pool or beach. This option keeps your skin protected from the sun and gives you coverage for the sake of modesty. Check your own attitude about how you feel walking around in a swimsuit which in many cases covers less than underwear. Do not flaunt your young body but respect it and cover it appropriately when you are out of the water. If you choose a two piece be picky about what it covers and avoid the string or tie bikinis. Try a tankini instead.

Hey Girls, read your comments to past questions!

You want to stand up to the Mean Girl in your class but you are really scared that she will turn her meanness on you if you do. According to Friends, Boys and Getting Along, what can you do?

I wouldn't care. I would stand up too her. You're showing her that you aren't afraid of her and that you are serious that she has to stop what she is doing. But don't be mean to her about it because she is a daughter of the King!! Also great ideas girls!!

Rebecca

I would definitely stand up to the girl. And who cares if she turns against you? It will show that you are strong and you've got the courage to stand up to her. You may also make a friend. But just remember, be nice, cause a lot of mean kids have troubles at home. And if she tries to insult you, say thanks! I bet she won't know what to say then!

Bridget

What I would do, is take her aside, and say, "Hey, why are you being so mean?" She might take it really offensive, or she might get mad. Then I'd try and tell her that she needs to be nicer. If she doesn't have friends, I would tell her if she was nicer, she would have more friends. Then we could make up a sercret sign then, for whenever she is being mean, I would do the sign thing and she would remember to be nice. :)

Miriam

Just act like you don't care. IF you care about all the mean things she does to you she mght think, "this is no fun, why even bother being mean to her. Yeah, it's going to hurt your feelings a little, all you have to do though is remember you are a daughter of the king!!!

Emily

Tell yourself that she has no right to be unkind to you and that therefore you have a perfect reason to stand up to her. If you're confident about the comebacks you use she'll probably get the hint. :)

God bless!

Gracie

First you should try and have compassion for the girl. You should also try comebacks! It sounds a little stupid, but it actually works!

Mariah

Well, I would stand up to her. I don't care about her meanness.

My friend stood up to this mean girl too. And now we've got eachother at least. And all that matters is that the mean girl sees she's being rude. She might not know she's being that way, and that might show her. 8D

No name

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One of your friends can be really mean to other girls. She is nice to you and you don't want to end your friendship but you just don't like the way she has been treating others. According to Friends, Boys and Getting Along what can you do?

Thanks Gracie! That really helped! I am definteley going to school tomorrow and let this friend know that it totally isn't cool to make fun of others.

P.S. Thanks! I like the name Gracie too.

Mariah

Another thing I might do is talk to some of my other friends, and ask them if they have been noticing the way our friend was acting. They might notice, or they might not. We could work something out to try and get her to be a better person.

Miriam

Hey Mariah! (Btw, love your name!) You asked for some tips, right? Well, like I said, a few of my friends have had this problem. Actually, one of my now best friends went from being really mean to super nice! The key is to let the friend know you don't appreciate the way she's treating other people. If she's your real friend she'll accept your opinion. Hope this helps!

Gracie

Hi Ladies! I am so glad that our internet is working again!

Well, first of all, I would take her aside during recess, and ask her why she is being so mean. It could be she is having family issues in her family, or a pet or something. Then I would tell her that she needs to start treating others with respect. Act like it was Jesus she was talking to!

Miriam

This is extremely werid...I sort of have a friend like this. Sometimes she is nice to others, but other days she is really mean to the others, but really nice to me. I never want to get on her bad side, because she is really funny and nice.(Other than treating others meanley) So I just say "Hey, guys, do you wanna go play ______?" But this isn't really working out that great anymore. Any tips would be greatly appriceated! Your tips so far have given me ideas.

Mariah

This has happened to me once or twice, and I have gotten some of my friends that hated each other, to actually become friends. I'll say, "Look, guys, I want to be friends with both of y'all, but it's not going to work out if you make it difficult by being mean this way." It really works! :)

Gracie

I would gently remind her that she should be nice to everyone not just a few people. If she gets mad at me I would just be very patient with her. That's what I would do!

Rebecca

Well, that's a tuff one. But, I would just gently mention to my friend or just suggest to her; "Hey, uhh.... Do you think you could be a little nicer to others?"

P.S. I didn't know Monica was Mexican! I find it awesome that she is!

Begoña

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You're at school in the morning getting your things out of your locker when the Mean Girl comes up to the girl next to you and starts harassing her. According to Friends, Boys, and Getting Along what should you do?

Stick up for the girl and be really nice to her. Try to become good friends with her then he will be happy to know she has someone who will stick up for her and someone to talk to.

Miriam

You should stick up for her! Use good comebacks like: "What you say is what you are!" "I care what you think of me because?" Things like that! And if it gets too out of hand, tell a teacher or trusted adult. 8D

See ya!

Begoña

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Your younger sister and you are very close. You have noticed that she needs to shampoo her hair daily because it is greasy. You have heard your mom try to get her to do this but she is resisting. What can you do to encourage your sister to take better care of her hygiene?

What's interesting is this really happened in my family! My little sister copies everything I do too, so when I started taking a shower everyday, she did! We even do once-a-month "Spa days" where we paint each others nails and do our hair to make an everyday thing more fun!

Lilly-Rose

I would remind her of her dignity as a person and cheer her up with some encouraging notes.

Teresa

I would list a TON of her good qualities. Then list the qualities of hers that are better than mine. I still know I'm a daughter of the King and have gifts, but by showing her what's great about her will help her.

Marina

I would comment on her looks and I would also get her involved with stuff in the community so she would look good in front of everyone so she would see how good life can be when you get involved with stuff

Molly

Well, I'm the youngest in my family, so my advice is probably not the best. I would buy her a shampoo that smells like something she loved and had a colorful container. Another thing is that younger kids really want to grow up and be 'big kids'. So I would tell her how 'big kids' wash their hair.

Thanks for reading!

Begoña

I would probably buy her a cool scrubby to encourage her to take a shower more often. I would also take a shower each day, to show her that it isn't bad.

Teresa

I would do something fun with her then suggest that she should shampoo her hair. Since we are close she may not mind.

Rebecca

I have a little sister, so I think I know what I'd do in this situation. My baby sis copies EVERYTHING I do. If she followed my example of taking a shower every day, washing hair, etc., I wouldn't have to worry! Remember: little sisters like to be like their big sis! :)

God bless!

Gracie

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One of your friends is having trouble with her self confidence. She thinks all her friends are prettier, smarter, and better than she is. What can you do to help her see herself as a daughter of the King?

I would remind her of her dignity as a person and cheer her up with some encouraging notes.

Teresa

I would let her know that God created everyone to be equal, and we're ALL wonderful in His eyes. Appearances don't mean anything! :)
God bless!

Gracie

Molly

Marina

I would let her know that God created everyone to be equal, and we're ALL wonderful in His eyes. Appearances don't mean anything! :)
God bless!

Gracie

I'd suggest that she read the All Things Girl series. I have to admit I am sometimes like that but I read one of the books or think about what God wants me to think. It helps!!

Rebecca

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Your BFF has body odor and really needs to use deodarant but seems completely clueless about it. You don't want her to be embarassed by this. What would you do?

Hey bff, i don’t want to upset you in any way but you have a little bit of a body odor and i feel it would be in your best interest to use deodorant

Lisa

I once had a friend like this. I just asked her if she used deodarant. She did get a little embarrased,and I told her it was okay to grow up. (And if she used it, she would smell really nice!)

Mariah

I'd talk to her mom, and have her break it to my bestie. It would be less painful that way, I think. :D

Gwen

I would kindly suggest that she should buy some because it is helpful. And I'd help her with it.

Rebecca

I'd invite her over for a sleepover and take a shower in the morning. Then, I'd say to her,"Hey, You should take a shower here, we got really nice water"!

Mary

I am a very straight-forward person so I would just tell her the truth,she may want to use deodarant!

Cassie

What I would do is I'd tell her, "I don't want you to be embarrassed, but you have some body odor. If you don't have any deodorant here, you can use mine."

Tina

Ok, well, if she's your bff, she shouldn't be too bothered about what you say, right? Otherwise y'all wouldn't be best friends! If I didn't want my bff to embarrassed, I'd choose a time when we're alone and just sort of bring up the subject.

God bless! :)

Gracie